LOVE & MARRIAGE
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never give up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures every circumstance.
In a wedding ceremony, the most common vows recited state that you will take thee to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer , for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish , till death do you part. I believe that there is also a version that states, from this day forward forsaking all others till death do thee part.
Mark 10:9 states, let no one split apart what God has joined together.
Matthew 20:9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery— unless his wife has been unfaithful.
What if it were the husband who had been unfaithful? I guess back then it it didn’t matter, the Old Testament actually gives examples of men with multiple wives, Abraham, Jacob, David and Solomon. But yet it didn’t condone polygamy. The New Testament emphasizes monogamy, which is what is practiced today. It is actually illegal in all states to be married to more than one person, though there are tens of thousand of people in North America involved in multiple marriages.
Unfortunately marriages fail and divorce happens. I wouldn’t be here today if it hadn’t been for a failed marriage that happened before my parents ever met. And I would not have met and fallen in love with the man who later became my husband if his first marriage had not failed (2 yrs prior to our meeting).
The Bible speaks often about the sins or divorce and adulatory, but it also speaks of forgiveness.
Psalms 65:30 Though we are overwhelmed by our sins, you forgive them all.
1 John 1:9 But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive our sins to cleanse us from all wickedness.
I met my husband in April of 1981 and we were married in March of 1982, just 5 days shy of my 21st birthday. In hindsight I probably should have waited another year or two before getting married. I was mature for my age, but hadn’t really experienced much in life. Where my husband had been to war, gotten married and had a child before I even graduated from high school.
Looking back on those years, I see where we grew and matured together. His life had finally stabilized; I think in me he found his anchor, his grounding rod so to speak. He says that I saved him from self destruction. And in truth, he probably did the same for me.
Let me tell you, I think we have covered those marriage vows I mentioned earlier from A-Z. There has been sickness and health, there has been richness and debt, and we have both faced things that could have ended in death. Have all these years been easy? No, of course not. God has given us many challenges along the way and tested our strengths and weaknesses in many ways. There have been fights and arguments, and words said that shouldn’t have been, but by the end of the day we would “kiss and make up”, because from day 1 we agreed that we never went to bed mad, we didn’t carry that disagreement over to the next day.
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer deflects anger but harsh words make tempers flare.
The most important part is any relationship is communication, you have to talk to you partner and resolve your issues. Just like you have to talk to God and ask for his help in your life and decision making.
Psalm 17:6 I am praying to you because I know you will listen, O God. Bend down and listen as I pray.
It’s been 43 years of growing, struggling, fighting, sharing, caring and loving. All I can do is pray that God gives us many more years of this bond he has created, we have so much more to give one another.
In a wedding ceremony, the most common vows recited state that you will take thee to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer , for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish , till death do you part. I believe that there is also a version that states, from this day forward forsaking all others till death do thee part.
Mark 10:9 states, let no one split apart what God has joined together.
Matthew 20:9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery— unless his wife has been unfaithful.
What if it were the husband who had been unfaithful? I guess back then it it didn’t matter, the Old Testament actually gives examples of men with multiple wives, Abraham, Jacob, David and Solomon. But yet it didn’t condone polygamy. The New Testament emphasizes monogamy, which is what is practiced today. It is actually illegal in all states to be married to more than one person, though there are tens of thousand of people in North America involved in multiple marriages.
Unfortunately marriages fail and divorce happens. I wouldn’t be here today if it hadn’t been for a failed marriage that happened before my parents ever met. And I would not have met and fallen in love with the man who later became my husband if his first marriage had not failed (2 yrs prior to our meeting).
The Bible speaks often about the sins or divorce and adulatory, but it also speaks of forgiveness.
Psalms 65:30 Though we are overwhelmed by our sins, you forgive them all.
1 John 1:9 But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive our sins to cleanse us from all wickedness.
I met my husband in April of 1981 and we were married in March of 1982, just 5 days shy of my 21st birthday. In hindsight I probably should have waited another year or two before getting married. I was mature for my age, but hadn’t really experienced much in life. Where my husband had been to war, gotten married and had a child before I even graduated from high school.
Looking back on those years, I see where we grew and matured together. His life had finally stabilized; I think in me he found his anchor, his grounding rod so to speak. He says that I saved him from self destruction. And in truth, he probably did the same for me.
Let me tell you, I think we have covered those marriage vows I mentioned earlier from A-Z. There has been sickness and health, there has been richness and debt, and we have both faced things that could have ended in death. Have all these years been easy? No, of course not. God has given us many challenges along the way and tested our strengths and weaknesses in many ways. There have been fights and arguments, and words said that shouldn’t have been, but by the end of the day we would “kiss and make up”, because from day 1 we agreed that we never went to bed mad, we didn’t carry that disagreement over to the next day.
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer deflects anger but harsh words make tempers flare.
The most important part is any relationship is communication, you have to talk to you partner and resolve your issues. Just like you have to talk to God and ask for his help in your life and decision making.
Psalm 17:6 I am praying to you because I know you will listen, O God. Bend down and listen as I pray.
It’s been 43 years of growing, struggling, fighting, sharing, caring and loving. All I can do is pray that God gives us many more years of this bond he has created, we have so much more to give one another.
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